Know This-You Cannot Buy Mindset

KNOW THIS.

I know this from experience, and I am sorry that I know this. 

You cannot put a price on mindset.

You cannot sell it.
You cannot coach it.

Mindset is lived.
It is built in the choices you make when nobody is watching.

And until someone is ready to do that work,
nothing works.

Let’s clear something up, because people love to blur these lines.

Coaching and mentoring are not the same.

Coaching is instruction.
It is skill-based.
It is structured.
It is tied to outcomes, performance, and expertise.

That is where education, experience, and yes, even payment can make sense, yet it is probably not need.

Mentoring is different.

Mentoring is human.
It is relational.
It is consistent.
It is lived out in real time.

It is showing up, leading by example, and holding a standard without performing it for attention.

Good human practices falls under mentoring.

And no, I am not going to charge someone for that.
That is my opinion.

Being a decent human is not a business model.

I am not talking about licensed health care providers.
I am not talking about therapists or medical professionals.

I am talking about people who could simply practice being good humans and lead by example.

So when did we stop working on ourselves
and start expecting someone else to carry us through it?

When did that become normal?
Because I genuinely want to know.

It is like weight loss programs.

And this is probably going to make some people uncomfortable.

I paid for what felt like every weight loss program on the planet.

Every single one.

And they did not work.

Not because they were all bad.
Because I did not do the work.

I did not measure properly.
I found ways to skirt around it.
I cut corners.

That is on me.

Yes, obesity is a disease. That is real.

And I can also be honest enough with myself to say this

Weight loss surgery is powerful. I am not discrediting it. I am grateful for it.

But let’s be honest about what it does.

It creates restriction.
It reduces how much you can eat.
It creates a caloric deficit.
It shifts hunger and fullness.

But it does not magically fix your habits.
It does not heal your relationship with food.
It does not hand you discipline.
It does not install mindset like a software update.

It buys you time.

Time to build habits.
Time to stack better choices.
Time to learn your patterns.
Time to stop lying to yourself.

Because if surgery fixed everything, people would not regain.
People would not still have to fight for themselves every single day to keep the weight off.

And I can say that because I live it.

No coach, no program, no surgery, no plan can do the work for you if you are not ready to do the work.

So no, you cannot put a price on mindset.

You cannot sell it.
You cannot coach it into someone who is not ready.

You can model it.
You can mentor.
You can be a good human.

But until someone decides to fight for themselves,
it is just another weight loss program.

So get honest with yourself.

If those programs did not work for me,
it is because I did not put the work in.

And if I am not doing the work,
no coach is going to change that.

We know what to do.

We just choose not to acknowledge it.

So there it is.

If you use those services and they help you, good.
More power to you.

But do not forget this

You hold the power over yourself.

You always have.

-Beth B. Blissful